How Getting Focused Can Make a World of Difference

Updated: Apr 26, 2019

I can’t count how many articles, blogs, books, podcasts, and videos I’ve read, listened to, and watched about changing your life, transforming your outlook, crushing it, owning it, dropping the ball, leaning in, etc.

Over the past two years since starting my own business, I’ve been investing a great deal of energy, time, and resources learning, experimenting, and implementing what I’m learning to grow my business, contribute to my clients, and support my eleven-year-old son and myself, save for college, save for retirement, and enjoy all that I can in life.

Ultimately, the “goal” for me has been to align my work and personal responsibilities, to live a life that has more meaning, purpose, and one that works for my son and me--and in the process live powerfully making the most of the hand I was dealt—as cliché as that sounds as I read this, it’s my truth.

Today, my “goal” is to share with you one simple tool that’s intrinsic to all the strategies that I’ve learned thus far and one that can help you pursue what you want, in different areas, your career, relationships, finances, spirituality, community, personal growth, recreation, and more.

It’s time to “Focus!”

What does focusing mean to me? It means letting go, dismissing, de-prioritizing, removing or eradicating anything in your life that’s causing you agita and that’s making unnecessary noise in the symphony of your life. In other words, SHOW UP! for yourself. Take the reins of your life and be intentional about what you do with your time and resources.

For many of us, life isn’t easy—we may have demanding responsibilities and challenging situations, at times beyond our control. I’m not naïve about the fact that having the privilege to write this article indicates that I’m enjoying freedoms and luxuries that many in the world lack. But what I am doing is exercising this privilege by making the most of it. I’m grateful that I feel safe enough to say what I’m saying, on my laptop, to you on your smartphones and laptops.

So when I say “take the reins of your life and be intentional about what you do with your time and resources,” I’m considering that all of us are in a different situation, and regardless of that, we can still focus our lives on what we find to be essential and meaningful. Everything else is an unwanted, distracting, and often annoying cacophony!

How can we focus?

Take a few minutes and answer these questions to identify your most significant pain points and the nuances in life that bring you joy. When you focus on decreasing the pain and increasing the pleasure, with intention and attention, your experience, your mindset, and what you manifest in the world will undoubtedly transform to be more aligned with your desires. Don’t believe me? Try it, and then email me to share what happened. I’d welcome your stories.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself.

What are my biggest challenges right now, and how are they impacting me, emotionally, financially, and physically?

Be honest with yourself. Notice if in your answers you pick up any hint of deferred responsibility—are you blaming someone else for the challenges? Explore the role that you actively or passively play in each of these existing challenges.

How would my life improve if I address these challenges?

What would be the benefit of you focusing on starring these challenges right in the eye? Don’t misunderstand me. There are times that we rather crawl under our bed and forget our woes. And there’s a time and place to do that—to take a lit